I don’t have an elaborate answer, other than that we plan to be honest with our children, and to acknowledge the lack of family network by finding other resources to compensate. My goal is to talk to my children in a way that I can still defend when they are adults and ask me “why did you do this or that?”. Another part of this will have to be to really be open for their feelings, questions, thoughts… talking is the best way to prevent trauma.

My wife has also broken from her family, which does make us feel isolated at times. That said, we’re both confident that it was the right decision to allow for true healing and to break the generational chain of dysfunction.